From the Daily Beast:
…All of that got Haag thinking: Should we stop calling infidelity a problem, and think of it as the future? “Marital nonmonogamy may be to the 21st century what premarital sex was to the 20th,” she writes—”a behavior that shifts gradually from proscribed and limited, to tolerated and increasingly common.”
She wouldn’t be the first to suggest it: Researchers have long wondered whether monogamy is outdated. (Helen Fisher, who studies the nature of love, believes humans aren’t meant to be together forever—but in short-term, monogamous relationships of three or four years.)…
Yeah, that’s the ticket – don’t try. Don’t make an effort. If its easier to wallow in a sewer than to stay clean, then by all means: wallow away.
There is a reason why Jesus instructed us that to even look at a woman with lust in our hearts is adultery – because to travel even an inch down the road of sin is catastrophic. In a real sense there is no “small sin” – because that first step away from honor can prove decisive in a person’s life. From being a person keeping the marital vows you first become a person who will do a bit of “innocent” flirting on line…before too long, you’re sending pornographic pictures of yourself to women on the other side of the country. In response to the Weiner case we can do one of two things – learn that its best not to even start that sort of thing, or decide that we’d rather live in a world where vows are meaningless.
Ultimately, such disasters as this are a failure to love properly. We are further instructed that the most important commandment is to love God with all our heart and soul. This is not because God needs to be loved like that but because only if we fix our love on the one entity worthy of it will we be able to demonstrate proper love to the people around us. Weiner had a choice – in a split second moment he could have loved God, which would have gotten him immediately back to loving his wife…and the picture would never have been sent. But in that instant he decided to love himself to the exclusion of God and all else…and now his career is ruined. It really works as simply – and as swiftly – as that. And 10,000 times a day men and women make that same choice…and those who choose correctly wouldn’t change places with those who chose wrong for all the money in the world.
This is not to say that once you’ve chosen wrong you can’t later choose correctly. As long as we live, there is that chance for redemption. If the last 100 choices you made were bad, you can pretty much fix the problem by making the right choice, today. Not that the sin will be as if it had never been, but that you will have turned back from sin and towards God…and your cure will have commenced. But all too many among us want none of that – what they want is ease. It is much easier to deal with sin when you no longer consider it a sin…the mental process goes “well, its all just the way I am; and I’m being true to myself…and as long as I’m not doing what Rat Bastard X is doing, I’m a good person”…meanwhile, Rat Bastard X is considering himself to be ok because he’s not doing what Rat Bastard Y just did.
It is, though, better to try to be good. Really it is. I, too, fail. But commanded by God, when I do so I don’t try to justify it: I apologize for it and try to do better next time. And when the next time comes, I some times actually do better. It is just as much a step by step process to become a good person as it is to become a wicked person, you see? And the sooner we all start trying to be good rather than justifying being bad, the better the world will be.
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