As expected, it took a little while for people to dig in to the life of Adam Lanza and this story in the Hartford Courant is pretty good. Reading it, there was nothing in it I didn’t expect to find. A broken family (divorce for the perfectly asinine “irreconcilable differences”: translation – neither of them tried)…
…an unwillingness to challenge the boy to do the things a boy should do (Adam apparently didn’t like being touched – the cure for this was to touch him, but everyone was warned off of that by his mother…and so he went through his life being protected from normal, everyday contact with people), endless medical visits to find out why Adam didn’t liked to be touched and was anti-social (likely feeding a sense of both specialness and vulnerability in Adam’s make up; no mention of psychological drugs in the story, but I’ll bet money that there was a lot of it in Adam’s life), mother picking and choosing which counselors to bring him to (indicating, perhaps, an unwillingness to face the truth about both Adam and the way she was treating him), set apart in classes for “special needs” kids (in other words, rather than getting the kids in to the rough and tumble of life which will toughen them up, put them in ever softer environments where their strangeness will grow), the kid had a very large supply of graphic, violent video games (certainly bought by his mother and/or other family members), over time, increasing isolation by both mother and son from outside contacts, including the termination of normal, family contacts, no mention in the story of any religious practice by the family…a gigantic, modern, screw up of a family…and there are likely millions more just like it out there.
Garbage in, garbage out. From the story, there doesn’t appear to have been anything normal about Adam Lanza’s life – perhaps he did have some problems, but lots of people have had lots of problems throughout history and it is only lately that some of them have taken to massacring random people. Reading this story it is what I expected it to be when I first heard of the basics about the massacre – a young man going to a school and murdering people. I could have written this story a couple days after the massacre. I was certain – from the get-go – that this would not be the story of a young man who grew up in a stable, two-parent household which attended Church on a weekly basis and which didn’t go to a shrink every time a boy acted oddly while growing up. And I’m just as certain that when the next massacre happens – and it will happen – that the story will be similar to Adam Lanza’s.
Unless and until we change, as a people, this is just going to get worse. My final two cents: ban violent video games. They aren’t helping and are likely hurting – as long as we’re in the business of warping the minds of young men as they grow up, let’s not also infuse them with the “fun” of killing people in video games.